WORK WITH ME
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When was the last time you felt free to be so completely yourself that you had no care or anxiety about how you were going to be received? That is what I will help you to redeem with yourself.
HOW IT WORKS
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Start by downloading my free Four Core Fallacies Worksheet (pdf) and see if it seems relevant and useful to you.
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Schedule an initial 90 min consultation to review your answers with me and see if we are a fit to work together.
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If you feel ready to do the deep work of an Essential Relating Threshold - 3 Day Retreat, complete this intake/application.
HOW I WORK
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Using a tool I call Authenticating Your 4 Core Emotions and 4 Core Intentions, I help you find and give true voice to senses and perceptions of your self that have been long stifled and are causing division and separation in relationships.
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What I have discovered is that when you can embrace your own sense of separation from yourself and the beauty of life, you can reconcile your grief about loving and losses, about your experiences of betrayal and being trusting, you can allow others to see you again, as you actually are, and intimacy becomes as natural as an authentic invitation.
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When you feel ready to confront your own barriers to intimacy and real connection, these are the stages I will guide you to work through.
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Relationships get complicated when one or more of these four relationship fallacies is running the show and become exhausting while you are actually dissatisfied, but pretending to be fine.
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The Four Fallacies of Resource and Relationship according to ER are:
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I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WANT - This is connected to the core emotion of anger at the center of the emotional body.
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I DON'T HAVE WHAT I NEED - This is connected to the core emotion of fear one stage up from anger.
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I DON'T WANT TO GET HURT - This is connected to the next up core emotion, sadness.
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I DON'T WANT TO HURT ANYONE - The final core emotion, happy/unhappy is threatened by having to tell the truth and risk the possibility of hurting someone's feelings, which in turn means I don't get what I want from them, a vicious cycle.
Through a series of revealing discoveries, as we locate your deepest core interests and experiences and unveil your most natural talents as authentic expressions, you will have a sense of coming home.
You will experience a natural repairing of your most centered and trustworthy self.
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You do not have to choose between stable and grounded or excited and passionate. You can embody both. You are designed to embrace states of being that are deeply grounded alongside states of ecstatic inspiration, in the same breath.
Got questions?
Threshold to Essential Relating
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Reveal Authentic Connection & Bring Your Relationships Alive
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Discover the core wounds of your inauthenticity and heal your capacity for authentic connection. This retreat helps you locate what keeps you stuck and reveals your ability for true Devotion, Discipline, Drive, and Desire.
RETREAT INTENSIVES
What is this Threshold to Essential Relating?
In this event you will discover the deep foundational core of your inauthenticity toward relating to yourself, your world, and those in it with you. It is that thing that keeps getting in the way and keeping you stuck, shut down, reactive and feeling overwhelmed. I call it, your Sentence Structure. It is made up of four different levels of stuck. Sentenced, Servitude, Should, and Shame.
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Upon that reveal, we can begin to locate that what is on the other side of each piece of your Sentenced Structure is your true loving service of Devotion, Discipline, Drive, and Desire. You must begin here.
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So that later, you may participate in the full curriculum and undertake the journey of self discovery through the lens of your current position toward relationship responsibility and personal authority, held here as your relationship to influence. This is the fundamental structure of the deep dive that is Essential and Dynamic Relating as a whole.
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We will investigate your responses to questions like:
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What does it mean for YOU to relate authentically?
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How do you reconcile relationship wounds and know your own true capacity to connect authentically with others?
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How do you navigate difficult conversations when one or both parties get upset and elevated and are unable to remain calm and centered?
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How do you have the necessary difficult conversations with people about sensitive matters in a way that allows you to expand and deepen intimacy rather than feel more divided and separate?
This weekend is for YOU if any or all apply:
You are someone who:
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has participated in self discovery work and has found that you are still looking for more effective tools in relating more authentically and effectively in all of your relationships
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has a deep desire to live authentically and with a high degree of personal accountability in your relationships
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considers authentic human connection to be critical to your quality of life.
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for a significant shift in the way you give and take in all of your relationships and are ready to confront the hard work of recognizing your place in the issues that arise
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to embrace a clearer and more compassionate view of yourself and others
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and craving true, deep connection with your chosen people and are willing to lead the effort at more effective relating
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to confront ways that you are bound in old patterns that limit authentic connection in relating
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are ready to reconcile your ego’s shadow with your deeper desire to create authentic connection
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to find the real strength of your vulnerability
RETREAT DETAILS​
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Course cost is $750.00 per person (lodging & meals charged separately)
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Includes four weekly group follow-up sessions (60 minutes each) for practicing and integrating the tools of Essential Relating using your newly found Desire, Drive, Discipline, and Devotion Structure
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Lodging with meals fee here:
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Meals included with lodging - Local and Wholesome inc. Friday dinner, Saturday breakfast/lunch/dinner, Sunday breakfast/lunch.
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Zen cabin room - separate sleeping areas and rooms are open to the shared space: $200.00/ night
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Cedar House open shared sleeping area: $100.00/night
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Camping: $75.00/night
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Massage amenities can be arranged and are charged separately.
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Located at a 3 acre private getaway retreat center with private massage room and outdoor hot tub access on the beautiful Quilcene River less than 2 hours from Seattle.
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​If you feel ready to do the deep work of an Essential Relating Threshold - 3 Day Retreat, complete this intake/application.